Breastfeeding is a more or less long period which, of course, is wonderful, but which is not easy on all points:
Fatigue for almost all of us (and not the nice little fatigue, no, the big fatigue); pain (hello mastitis cracks and other joys of breastfeeding); tension in the couple for some (and hello baby clash) and sometimes even pressure from the family and in-laws!
So for those who can't take it anymore, who are at their wits' end, don't worry: there are solutions and among these solutions, we often find psychological support, but also practical support from their spouse. So yes, it comes naturally for some, but sometimes this support does not necessarily come instinctively, which can compromise the good experience of breastfeeding, or even breastfeeding itself.
So we asked you about it on our Instagram and a few simple everyday actions performed by spouses seem to help, soothe and make breastfeeding sometimes a little simpler and less stressful. But not only that, it allows spouses to feel “useful” when sometimes they have difficulty finding their place.
“Let him cook for me and bring me my meal when I’m stuck for a feeding”
Because we are hungry too, and when a little koala is attached to us all day and all night long it is often difficult to manage the meal and feed ourselves properly. So thank you cooks, it’s up to you!
“Let him tell me that I am confident, his encouragement”
Indeed, feeling that we are assured, that they are proud of us, well that brings balm to our hearts and makes us feel good!
“Let him take the little one at night and place him at his breast.”
The nights are rough, the important thing is to get together with your partner: some people alternate nights so that one, then the other, can rest. Others wake up at the same time for more support and sharing of tasks. The important thing is to support each other and find a balance between 3. And if the breastfeeding mother needs to stay with her eyes closed, her breasts in the air without moving, well then, it's up to the partner to take care of place baby at the breast, certain positions allow it!
“Let my partner prepare meals and wash the dishes for the breast pump”
We're not going to lie to each other, when we have just given birth we are told “rest when baby is resting” Which assumes that at home, the dishes, laundry and meals are done as if by magic.
If the partner has returned to work, it is sometimes complicated to navigate daily tasks and when you see that you have to go pump but the breast pump is dirty, you are losing it. So the small dishes for the breast pump are not a bad idea, nor is the small meal!
Don’t hesitate to share your experiences with us on Instagram @MilkyHour, we are delighted to hear from you and discuss with you.
